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Marty's avatar

You're right, T.L, we will most definitely need masculinity soon, in whatever form it may take. I feel compelled to share a quote, one I've always felt played a significant role in my perspective of what it means to be a man. It also touches on the many aspects and/or virtues you have written about.

“Is not ours an age of mis-lived lives, of un-manned men? Why?

Because Jesus Christ has disappeared. Wherever the people are true Christians, there are men to be found in large numbers, but everywhere and always, if Christianity wilts, the men wilt. Look closely, they are no longer men but shadows of men. Thus what do you hear on all sides today? The world is dwindling away, for lack of men; the nations are perishing for scarcity of men, for the rareness of men. I do believe: there are no men where there is no character; there is no character where there are no principles, doctrines, stands taken; there are no stands taken, no doctrines, no principles, where there is no religious faith and consequently no religion of society.

Do what you will: only from God you will get men.”

~ Cardinal Louis-Édouard-François-Desiré Pie ~ Christmas Homily (1871)

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Toxic masculinity does not exist.

Masculinity is suffering greatly starting in school where boys are very discriminated

against to the point where they are diagnosed and given medication to "calm them

down".

My buddy and I decided to experiment by giving the boys dolls and the girls

trucks etc. The experiment failed and we were vindicated. The boys smashed the dolls

(a male doll, not a Barbie) against the wall and the girls found a tea towel to crumple

up and cradle in the crook of their arm to cuddle and rock like a baby. What does this

tell you? Boys were taking some object and and using it as a vehicle saying "vroom-vroom"

and the girls were feeding and rocking their tea towel baby. The kids were 18 mos. to

to 2 years old but found their natural roles. Interesting no?

Boys need to run and play and play rough at that. Girls stand around and chat and gossip

and try to be feminine and dress up a bit. At home the girls learned to sew and cook and

helped keep the house in order. Boys stayed outside until street lights came home then hustled

home to wash up and eat. Young women looked forward to graduating high school and

getting their engagement ring or taking some courses and entering the work world or if

the family had dough they went to college. Same with the boys, many had developed

great skills rebuilding a $100. old car and bringing up to driving readiness. And so on.

Now? Everything is upside down. Women are dominant in college, and further do not want to

be married and "subservient" to a husband. They do not want to stay home and raise a family,

make due with one car, and support the man in their home. Women may think themselves

equal or even superior to men. The divorce rate proves that these behaviors don't work,

and then a man gets stuck paying for a life he doesn't participate in, living hard and barely making

it. Mission accomplished/the "family" concept is ruined and has imploded. We are going to

have to "reset" family life but I don't know if it is even possible. I weep for all the losses.

Thanks TL for Rebel and Rogue and sharing the value of men as well as the value of women

in our short lives. We long for change...for the better.

Regards. Suzanna

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